Sex vs. Intimacy

When we started this blog I wanted it to be somewhere that married people (or single) could come to discuss their sex woes, tips and triumphs. I am not really sure that that is what it became. So today I am taking it back to what it was intended to be and I want to talk about intimacy.

It seems like people are constantly reading about ways to improve their sex life. To many men this means increasing the frequency and to many women this means increasing the quality. Silas and I have recently fallen into a slump of sorts. Mostly because my job has been extremely busy lately leaving me exhausted by the end of the day. Unfortunately, this has left us feeling distant and in a sexual dry spell. So, the other night we finally had a lets drag out the issues kind of conversation. These kinds of conversations are never fun. We have some communication issues that usually involve me overpowering the conversation and him just wishing it to be over as quickly as possible. Long story short the conversation ended as it usually does when we are in a dry spell…he is missing the sex and I am missing the intimacy. For me these things go together. If I don’t feel like we are close emotionally I have no desire to be close sexually. This is interesting because I am also not the most lovely dovey person in the world.

How do you keep the intimacy alive when you are so busy? For us this is usually the first place that time is robbed from when we are really busy. It becomes so much easier to breeze past Silas on my way to the sink rather than to stop for a quick kiss.

We got married at a very young age and after we had already had a child. So we never got to have that lovely “honeymoon period” of sexual adventure. Instead our married sex life has always quick stolen moments when Dora the Explorer is playing in the background or tired frolics in the dark.

Our mission after our little heart to heart is to try to readjust our priorities. Less computer, less video games, less reading for work and more time spent together; without cell phone in hand or mind elsewhere. However, truly being IN the moment is really hard when you are so used to being out of it.

To Porn or not to Porn?

     I woke up about a week ago without Vivian by my side.  This isn't particularly unusual as she typically is up before me as she goes to work earlier than I do.  I could hear her and the kids rustling around upstairs preparing for the day as I reached for my glasses and prepared to join them.  Then something stopped me, that feeling that no one knows that I am awake yet and I have a few minutes to myself.  Clearly I should take advantage of this time.  I layed back down on the bed and threw the covers back over me, settling into the warm bed as my hands traveled down my sides and slipped off my boxers.  Placing my hands on my cock and feeling it begin to grow to my attention.  I began to play with myself, squeezing lightly, running my hands over my thighs and balls, enjoying the way my own body felt in my hands.  As my cock got increasingly harder my mind wandered to times that Vivian and I have spent together, fantasies that I currently have, and the things I dreamed were going on in my bed at that moment.
     My mind doesn't play like a porn video when I masturbate but more like a highlight reel with images and scenarios jumping across my mind.  For example, Taking Vivian from behind as I did in the shower days before, fantasizing that Vivian is on her knees with my cock in her hands and mouth, pausing to look up at me with a devlish smile as she pulls her hair to the side and takes me back into her mouth, thinking about Vivian's bisexual desires and picturing her on all fours with her face buried in another womans pussy, while I fuck her from behind.........you get the idea :).  However, on this particular day I seemed to have a hard time bringing myself to orgasm, I really had to work for it.  As more dirty thoughts wandered through my mind  I tried to push back the fear that I wasn't going to cum. I grabbed the underside of my cock with my left hand and stroked my hard dick with my right hand increasingly faster.  My body tensed and I came hard, my body collapsing leisurely onto the pillow as I savored my morning alone.
    My difficulty achieving orgasm did make me realize that it was the first time in a while that I did not rely on porn to masturbate and that troubled me.  Had I lost touch with my own body as a result?  Therefore, I have taken a vow to myself that I am avoiding pornography for at least a month while I get back in touch with my own body.  It might also give me an excuse to blog more as my own creative juices should be flowing.  I'm actually quite excited about it, in fact I am home alone right now, I think I might have to head to the bedroom.

HNT - Camp Vivian

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Luna bead review

The Luna beads are... interesting. I agree that they aren't great for stimulation. Though they do provide a low grade stimulation that more or less keeps you aware. There are two bead weights. Can't remember exactly how heavy they are. Irregardless,
I found the heavier of the two to provide a bit more awareness. Someone had mentioned that they may be good for kegels. For myself they don't serve much purpose in that regard. Perhaps it is either the texture or the size but they seem to stay in without any effort. The balls that have a smooth metallic texture are better for kegels in my opinion.
The grey ball is the heavier, pink is lighter.



In summary:
Pros: good texture, I like the string feature for removal, low rumbling stimulation (fun while folding laundry), provides enough stimulation to lubricate
Cons: stay in on own (not good for kegels), not very much stimulation
If anyone else had tried these or know of another brand that is great, feel free to comment.
Vivian

Monday Memoirs -Exhibition

Vivian and I have a streak of exhibitionism in us....you may have noticed this already.  One of our favorite couples getaways is to a clothing optional hot springs.  This is not to be confused with the vapor caves referenced in a previous Monday Memoir.  We cautiously signed up for a tour one day and decided that we would be interested in going with swim suits on.  Upon taking the tour, it was revealed that this clothing optional site is a mostly nude location.  We decided to stay for the day and we also decided to leave our swimsuits behind.  It was such a humbling experience.  This place has 3 outdoor pools and an indoor pool, in addition to 2 private soaking rooms that can be used if they are vacant.  It is an amazing place.
  We thoroughly enjoy sharing our tales of the "nudie" hot springs with our vanilla friends, as you can imagine the looks upon their faces as we share our stories are varied.  The clothing optional pools aren't exactly a hotspot for young twenty-something couples but I imagine we got a rise out of some of our fellow exhibitionists as Vivian slinked her sexy body into the water.  I know she got a rise out of me and I get the pleasure of seeing her naked almost daily!  There were a mix of young and old, short and tall, males and females, skinny and fat, all walks of life  Our first soak included an unavoidable show of a woman doing naked yoga poolside, that was a sight to see.  You would think you would walk around aroused the entire time but being nude with everyone else makes you realize that we are all the same under our clothes, no matter what color or shape.  As we explored some of the smaller pools we found that we had a 2 foot deep pool with a waterfall coming into it, all to ourselves.
   Vivian kept running her head under the waterfall, letting the water run down her head, flowing over her breasts and falling to the water, it was such a turn on.  I stayed low in the water hoping no one would come up the pathway and see how aroused she had me.  She then took a seat opposite me, legs spread, just teasing me as I caught glimpses of her naked pussy through the water.  She then began to play with herself, I love to watch her do this, she gets a devlish smile and occasionally her eyes roll back into her head.  She is amazing to watch, so focused on what makes her feel good, an expert with her own body.  I moved over beside her and she positioned herself on her knees, facing away from me in the shallow water, her hands braced against the poolside.  I was so nervous. What if someone walked up? What if there were cameras? Who could see us?  Those thoughts remained as I entered her from behind, and thrusted deep inside her.  I remember it happened so fast, as public sex often does.  Both of us cumming quickly, surrounded by the warm water, the sunshine above, and hoping no one was watching.
   Although secretly, I'm always hoping someone is watching.  Would you watch?

HNT - Boy Meets Girl

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Voyeur

     One of my favorite things to do in my alone time is to sit and peruse other blogs across the internet.  I have always found interest in this and have learned that I am such a voyeur at heart.  I love to read about the things that make others feel happy, sad, angry, sexy, horny, wet, hard....etc.  I often wonder if it's because we married and had children in our teens and I don't get a lot of time to discover who I am individually, or if I would have always had this inclination.  I find that I love to read about sexual experiences I have not had the opportunity to divulge in.  I am fascinated by reading people's experiences with threesomes, swinging, light bondage, bisexuality, turn-ons, I believe it is the mystique of it all that captures me. 
     The trick is, after reading about so many experiences online it's easy to get the false notion that every couple swings, everybody likes to be spanked, everyone loves to talk about sex.  But this just isn't the case, one must keep in my that in reality everyone is different.  Being in a relationship is a true test of that, understanding that what one partner enjoys, the other may not, then finding that happy place somewhere in between.  That is one of the great things about being in a relationship is getting to know your significant other, the things they enjoy and the changes in their desires as they age and grow. 
     I think Vivian used to think, and maybe still does :), that I sat around and masturbated furiously while I looked at sex blogs and poured through the pages of web content.  The truth is, it's like reading a steamy novel, where my mind just disappears into an alternate reality.  I rarely find things that give me the need to masturbate at that exact moment, but the blogs do provide me with a lot of fantasy content for later.  Whether it be from reading a story of a couples night out without kids, or a HNT photograph on someone else's blog.  I appreciate nudity, exhibitionism, and the truth that people are willing to reveal as bloggers as a form of art.  So I guess I owe a thank you to all of you bloggers out there willing to let me peek into your lives, especially the ones that made it onto our blogroll.

Clitoral stimulation
It never ceases to amaze me how many couples do noy utilize a little black box. I was chatting with some girlfriend a few weeks ago when the subject of toys came up. One had never used them at all. The other (whom has some lack of orgasm issues) said that her husband doesn't like them and doesn't want them in their bedroom. WHAT?!! Does he know that most women have orgasms from clitoral stimulation and NOT from vaginal? And so begins my shameless marketing of vibration devices.
My all time favorite is the pocket rocket. They are inexpensive (you can even order them on amazon) starting at $10. They also come in a water proof variety! These are great for clit stimulation either solo or with a partner. They also come with multiple massaging heads for different textures.
The vibrating dildo: these come in a variety of shapes, sizes and textures. I like the products by Lelo. The Lelo products have a silicon finish that is smooth to the touch. There is a 4 way control on the bottom that allows you to control the speed as well as the type of vibration administered (continuous, wave, intermittent, pulsating). Some are also water proof and have a wall plug in so no more batteries!! There are a variety of different styles. Here is what I got in the mail this week :-)






I will review each of these as I use them. The first is the Gigi (the purple one). This is a great multi purpose tool. It is great because it can be used as a dildo, vibrating dildo, or clit stimulation. It has a wall plug in so there are no batteries ever!! It also has the trademark Lelo control. It has a setting for slow pulsation, fast pulsation, continuous vibration, a wave and a few more. In addition you can adjust how vigorous the vibration is. The curve of this toy is ideal for G-spot stimulation as well. I have used this one on an occasion or two to put on a show for Silas :-)
I am currently trying out the Luna balls and will update on them soon!!
Please, share your favorite toys for both solo and couples use. And visit www.lelo.com
Vivian

Jackpot!

We received a special gift in the mail yesterday.  It looks like we have some work cut our for us so we can review these wonderful Lelo products for everyone.

Monday Memoir - Longing...

Spooning next to eachother.

My arms wrapped around her.

My right hand gently brushing her nipples.

She peels away to remove her shirt, and I sense her bottoms are coming off as well. I begin to remove mine.

She returns to my grip, even tighter now. Both arms wrapped around her with no intention of letting go. Her naked ass pressed against my cock. My other hand slowly moving up and down her body.

She postions my cock so it's pressing against her clit. I take advantage of her spreading legs and play with her outer lips.

A strong grip on her body.

I can feel her pussy getting wetter, the tip of my cock is directed by her, sliding up and down her slit.

Legs spreading further.

My fingers begin to feel her moisture, my cock is directed towards her pussy, while I take my turn touching, teasing, circling, and rubbing her clit.

She pushes me deep inside her. Very wet. Very warm. It's been too long.

I can feel my orgasm building already. Damn she's sexy tonight. I can't hold back.

Just moments after insertion I begin to cum inside her. My abdomen against her back. Pushing deep inside her. Selfishly enjoying myself. I was right, I couldn't hold back. It had been too long.

She rolled me onto my back.

Taking control.

Slid My cock deep inside her.

Then she rode me, using me as her fuck toy to reach her orgasm. Her hands on my chest, hair in my face, grinding against me.

She looked up, closed her eyes, took a deep breath, then let out a series of moans, indicating it was her turn to enjoy herself.

That was last Thursday, before I left town.

I get home tonight.

It's been too long.

Monday Memoirs - Strip Club

Vivian and I took a trip to Vegas and couldn't help but partake in the temptation that is Sin City.  We gambled, we partied, we drank, we danced and we went to a strip club together!  This was our first time either of us had been to one.  We settled into our seats a with a good view of the stage while the women of Vegas worked their magic on the pole.  Soon we were approached for lap dances and Vivian insisted that I get a lap dance from a girl I found sexy.  The first one I chose had a Russian accent and blonde hair, I was mesmerized. Vivian sitting next to me, while another blonde performed before me, her tits in my face. Meanwhile Vivian sheepishly smiled at me as if she knew exactly what was going through my mind.  Then it was her turn, we waited until she found someone she thought was hot, and I watched as this woman with dark hair took off her top and was quickly grinding atop my wife in her chair.  The look on Vivian's face was most memorable, I could tell she was thoroughly enjoying herself, as much as I had enjoyed my lap-dance shortly before.  This was the closest she had been to fulfilling her bisexual fantasies, and it was turning both of us on.  I couldn't help but smile even more when I realized all of the men around us were staring at the two gorgeous women before them, and one of them was my wife. 
      After a few more lap dances and a short time spent at the stage tucking dollar bills into g strings we hopped in the limo and headed to our hotel room.   I remember it being a fairly quiet ride to the hotel, and a pleasant stroll from the casino floor to our hotel room.  We got ready for bed and climbed in as if it was any other night.  I wrapped my arms around Vivian, the smell of the other woman still on her, as she took my and and brought it to her pussy.  It was amazingly warm and wet.  It was that moment that I realized how turned on she was by our evening at the strip club.  As I spooned her, I spread her legs out and immediately began to play with her pussy.  She helped me as she teased her clit while I slid my fingers inside.  Knowing how horny the club had made her, got me harder than I had been all night.  My hard cock pressed against her while both of us teased and played with her wetness.  I love when she gets that wet, sliding my fingers inward, then back out and running them up her slit, gliding my fingertips effortlessly over her clit.  I began to maneuver my body so I was above her, rolling her onto her back and spreading her legs before me.  I slid a second finger inside her while I watched her play with her amazing tits.  Pressing my fingers inside her, then sliding them outward while my fingertips curled upward, teasing her G spot.  Then pressing them further inside.  I remember not allowing her to play with her clit, refusing to give it attention, which is where she gets 99% of her orgasms from.  That night I just wanted to play with her pussy.  Sliding my fingers in and out, both of us teasing her nipples, I could feel her orgasm approaching, then watched her body begin to tense before me.  She squeezed her breasts while her hips lifted off the bed, my fingers sliding in and out of her still.  I could feel her pussy tightening around my fingers while her body lost control to the pleasures of orgasm.  She moaned out load as she continued to cum below me, then her body collapsed and gave way to the afterglow of her orgasm. 
     Vivian has never believed that there is a G spot, if that's the case I don't know where that orgasm came from as it wasn't her clit.  Regardless, I know that at least one time I took control of her body and gave her a mind blowing orgasm without playing with her clit.  And I hope for the sake of her bisexual fantasies that woman grinding against her at the strip club was deep in her thoughts.

Monday Memoirs - Batteries Aren't Only For Sex Toys

     This will be the first of many posts that involved our High School days.  We may not have been the star athletes, we may not have been passing out drunk at our friends houses, we may not have been getting high out of our minds, but we sure did know how to sneak away and find some time to fuck.  Looking back on it, we may have had the better end of that deal...
     I remember driving up to one of our favorite spots to fish and hike on that rainy afternoon.  We have always enjoyed the outdoors together.  Many days have been spent hiking, fishing, camping and enjoying the sunshine.  This day however was different, I miss those days of being so carefree, going for a drive alone just because we could.  As we pulled down the desolate dirt road I pulled over to the side and simply shut off the engine.  I had no intentions of hiking or fishing that day, I was simply looking for a nice quiet place to enjoy my company.  Vivian has always been a bombshell...bright blonde hair, sexy smile, and a smoking body.  We spent a lot of quality time in that single cab truck, just the two of us.  I leaned over and kissed her on the lips as my body began to shake.  It took two years before I stopped shaking every time, that I had sex with my wife, I don't think it was due to nervousness but due to sheer overjoy and excitement at the thought of what I was doing.   Sitting side by side our lips met as my hands began to reach inside her shirt to feel her breasts.  Sex was so hasty and passionate during these times.  Tugging at her shirt, begging for me to help her pull it off.  Watching her lift it over her head which was quickly followed by the unfastening of her bra.  Her hands jolted to my pants, unbottoning them and then sliding them down around my ankles. My hard cock standing to attention, sticking out of the opening in my boxers.
     There was just enough room for me to slide in between her legs facing her.  Kissing her as I frantically pulled her pants and underwear off and tossed them aside.  There was no screwing around today, I wanted to take her right now.  I slid my cock between her legs as she arched her back with her eyes closed and took me inside her.  Vivian has always been incredibly flexible, as her back pressed against the truck seat her feet took a firm grip on the windshield in front of her.  We began to fuck quickly, my cock thrusting in and out of her as she moaned out her thoughts in front of me.  Her pussy felt so tight against my hard cock as I could feel my orgasm approaching fast.  My back arched, and I came inside her and collapsed on top.  I quickly dismounted and started to get dressed, we had been fortunate no one had driven by yet and I didn't want to take my chances.  Grinning from ear to ear, I went to start the truck to return home......"click, click, click"  Motherfucker! I was so eager to fuck Vivian that I forgot to turn off the lights and had a dead battery!  We had to hike roughly a mile back to civilization, find a random man at his house, and ride with him up to our desolate spot to jump our truck battery.
     I can't help but wonder what went through that middle aged man's mind that day.  Could he smell the sex on us when we got in his car?  Could he tell Vivian had a serious case of Fuck Hair?  Did he know I pulled over on the side of the road to ravage Vivians body?  Did he notice the foot prints on the inside of the windshield, indicating I had just fucked Vivian there 30 minutes ago? 



   

Longing...

  Starting this blog 2 weeks ago has been exciting for many reasons.  It has began to reconnect us sexually just as we had hoped it would.  In such a short time our sexual communication has greatly increased, our sex has been great, and posting and reading each-others posts has been so much fun.  I often wonder if Vivian's post on porn accompanied by her HNT photo has the same affect on our readers as it has on me?  Everytime I check in on our blog I can't help but think about how amazingly sexy my wife is.  Those feelings seem to be amplified tonight, because this morning she kissed me goodbye before she left for a few days on a business trip. 
     I was awoken by her footsteps down the hallway as she approached our bed.  She had that fresh out of the shower smell that always excites me.  She then softly told me goodbye and kissed me...her lips were amazingly soft...then she had to leave.  I've been thinking about her kiss all day long and have been so distracted.  I keep sneaking away to quiet places in the house to look at our own blog, rereading her post on porn, and looking at the way her breasts push against the sweater she was wearing when I took her HNT photo.  I can't wait until she returns home.  I plan to be freshly showered, to be cleanly shaven, and to be smelling as good as she did this morning.  Then I can return the favor when she walks in the door, and kiss her soft lips as she did to mine, only this time I plan on grabbing her and not letting her go so easily.  

- Silas

Our First HNT: A Double Dose

Vivian

 

Silas

 

Porn

When we decided to start this blog I wanted to do it because I HATE searching through endless pages of bad porn. It seems as though most porn is geared towards men. It is always vicious sex that is so unrealistic that more often than not I find it to be humorous rather than hot. I think that as a women I enjoy porn quite a lot actually. However, I appreciate seeing more toned down and realistic porn. I hate the screaming moaning cum shots. I mean really, watching some girl moan and groan while she gets cum all over her face is really not hot to me. I really enjoy a good lesbian movie. There is something so much more sexy about watching two wet pussies rub all over each other. I find it particularly enjoyable to watch one hot girl suck another hot girl's pussy. Now I don't like the lip smacking and finger jamming. I like a good seductive pussy licking. The kind that is so wet and about medium speed, the kind that makes your own pussy wet just watching. Perhaps this is because this is the kind of pussy licking I like to receive.
At times I feel guilty that I like girl on girl porn more than girl on guy. However, I think that there are two main reasons I like girl on girl porn better.
1) Because it is softer and more sensual
2) Because I have always fantasized about having a lesbian encounter but I have never actually had one. Therefore there is a big fantasy factor involved.
Therefore, I will continue to search for good porn and will post whenever I find something I like. I rolled across these websites this morning and thought someone else might enjoy. Please share yours if you have any as well.
http://www.lezbomovies.com/
http://tour.sapphicerotica.com/?nats=MTQuNy4xLjEuMS4wLjAuMC4w

Viv

Monday Memoirs: Hot and Steamy

     I want to preface my first Monday Memories post by saying that it is my hope to share with you stories from our sexual past that are completely true.  As is the case in any relationship,  sex isn't always steamy, romantic, or wild, but I do take pride in the fact that we have been quite adventurous at times.  My first selection for Monday Memories is one of my favorites from our past, whenever the topic of wildest place you've had sex comes up this is always the first in my mind because it was so hot!
     We were driving back from a weekend getaway that involved just the two of us.  We don't often break away from the children but when we do we seem to take full advantage of it.  I honestly don't recall what we were doing that weekend, but this particular moment is branded in the back of my mind.  We had driven by this location many times but never took the opportunity to stop.  It is a natural sauna, I won't give away the name for privacy sake, but it is an amazing place.  We happened to have our swimsuits in the car, unfortunately it isn't clothing optional(more on this in another post!), and decided we would make a quick detour and visit the sauna. We walked in, not knowing what to expect as we were greeted with a spa like setting upstairs.  Soft music filled the low lit entry, we were shown to a room where we could just sit quietly and relax if we wanted to, and then were given directions to the locker rooms and the entry to the sauna.  We changed into our swimsuits and met in the hallway.  I remember Vivian wearing a bikini that day which she always looks amazing in. I still feel like a 13 year old boy at a swimming pool when I see my wife in a bikini, she is a very sexy woman.
     As we opened the door to the sauna we were smacked in the face by a rush of steam and heat.  The kind that takes your breath away when you encounter it.  We walked our way down a steep set of stone stairs that descended into a very low lit cave with fellow saunanites(I made that word up) basking in the natural steam and heat that was being released by the earth.  We anxiously walked our way to the back of the cave where there was a large room with people sitting quietly along the natural stone seating.  We awkwardly sat down next to eachother, not knowing the proper etiquette, everyone was so quiet! Could we talk? Should we whisper? Must we stay silent? The average age within the cave must have been about 35 and we couldn't have been more than 19 at the time.  I seem to remember being uncomortably close to an overweight middle aged man and I motioned for Vivian to follow me as we searched for somewhere more comfortable.  As I took her hand in mine and led her back toward the entrance I noticed her skin was slippery and hot from the heat, the sweat, and the steam.
     As we walked hand in hand toward the entrance another couple happened to get up off of a bench just large enough for about 2 people that was just off the main path of the cave, and we took their spot.  I remember sitting there silently next to Vivian, her wet and hot skin sliding against mine, then beginning to slide my hand over her moist skin.  It felt so amazing! Not a word was said between the two of us as we started to run our hands slowly over each others bodies while we sat side by side.  We could hear others talking in the distance, and occasionally someone would walk past to reach the large room at the end of the cave or return to the spa.  When I saw the opportunity I remember sliding my hands inside her bikini top, feeling her nipples slide between my fingertips and then stand to my attention.  While no words were exchanged I could clearly tell she was just as aroused as I was, The only problem was we were in a public sauna with people passing by.
     I simply could not resist her any more and slid my hand into her bikini and began to touch her.  My fingers teasing her and I was pleasantly surprised to find her very wet.  I don't really know what came over me, and to this day I don't know if I could repeat my behavior, but I decided I didn't care who walked by and got down on my knees in front of her.  I slid her bikini to the side and began to tease her with my tongue.  Her body felt so amazing everything was so wet and slippery from the steam.  There I was, on my knees in front of her, her legs spread open as I fingered and licked her. This didn't last long before she pulled me back up to the bench.  I unfastened my swim shorts and let my very hard cock out as she climbed on top of my lap facing me.  Her lips met mine as my cock entered her wet pussy.  I remember kissing her being my favorite part, it was so effortless, even our faces and lips seemed lubricated by the heat of the earth.  Our tongues dancing as Vivian's hips moved back and forth against mine.  Fortunately, we've both always been able to orgasm quickly as I only remember a few people walk by during this time, but thankfully they didn't say a word and kept on walking.  We both quietly controlled our orgasms the best we could, you know the kind where you're almost holding your breath, yet breathing deeply at the same time, pushing the voices of orgasm back.  We returned to our seats on the bench and snuggled side by side with a smile painted on both of our faces.  As we watched people walk by and wondered if they enjoyed their time here as much as we did.

A Sexual Journey Through Time – An Introduction

“We wish we had sex lives like Silas and Vivian.”  These words were spoken by some female friends of ours recently who are both in relationships.  The irony in this statement is we seem to feel we are going through a bit of a sexual rut lately.  We married in our teens and have now been joined in holy matrimony for close to ten years.  In those ten years we have managed to have a few children, pursued college and careers, and maintained a healthy relationship.  Life is hectic. That may be an understatement. Kids’ sports and activities, college, grad school, work, cleaning, yard work, homework…you get the idea.  As we approach the ten year mark we find ourselves a bit lost within the monotony that has become our sex life.  You see, after ten years you know what each other like and don’t like.  The thrill of something new wears off as most things you are comfortable with have been tried at least once before, and sex becomes routine rather than energetic.  This is due in part to our busy lives but also to the fact that we have been quite adventurous in our sexual decade, and are left wondering what else is out there.  We’ve had much more sex together than the average twenty-something who is in and out of relationships and partying.  We don’t have to go looking for sex, it’s been right next to us for the past 10 years!  We plan to co-author this blog in order to bring some passion back into our sex lives.  We have found ourselves searching for porn and toys aimed towards couples,   but sifting through the mountains of content can be a bit overwhelming.  We hope to use this blog to further explore our sexual interests, to find and review porn and toys for couples, to tell stories of our sexual adventures, and to share with our readers how sex within a marriage can be amazing if you are willing to make an effort.